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Relationship Check List & Power Wheel

Power and Control Wheel

The Power and Control Wheel: People with Disabilities and Their Caregivers shows different examples of abusive behaviors people with disabilities may experience.

Equality Wheel

The Equality Wheel: People with Disabilities and Their Caregivers gives examples of how a healthy relationship might look like between a person with a disability and their caregiver.

Healthy Relationship Checklist

A healthy relationship is being able to be yourself and do the things you enjoy without being coerced because you are in a relationship with someone else. You do not expect others to make you happy. You respect yourself and love yourself first. A healthy relationship entails having a good time with your partner but also allowing yourself to be comfortable on your own terms without the pressure of the other person. You are able to express your mind without fear of what he might do to you because you think differently, and you are able to say “no” to things you don’t feel comfortable. You feel safe with the person and that person accepts you for who you are and not who he wants you to be for him.

Here are some things to consider in thinking about what entails a healthy relationship:

  1. You have fun together
  2. You are able to be yourself
  3. You are able to have different opinions and interests
  4. You listen to each other
  5. You are both able to compromise, apologize and resolve disagreements
  6. You don’t spend all your time together. You are able to spend time alone or with your family and friends.
  7. You are free to say “no” to the things you don’t want to do.
  8. You feel safe and unafraid to be with this person.
  9. You feel free to see other friends and family when you need to or want to
  10. You feel free to express your opinions and beliefs and to act upon them.
  11. You feel free to change your mind.
  12. You feel good about yourself when you are with that person.
  13. You feel free to end the relationship if you want.


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