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Relationship Quiz

Are you in a healthy relationship? Does the person you love:

  • Put you down by calling you names and make you feel bad about yourself?
  • Frighten or threaten you?
  • Control what you do, who you see or talk to, or where you go?
  • Want to know where you are every single minute?
  • Believe that you belong to him/her?
  • Stop you from seeing or talking to friends or family?
  • Hit, kick, shove, punch, slap, restrain, or otherwise hurt you?
  • Make all the decisions?
  • Take your money or make you ask for money or refuse to give you money?
  • Repeatedly call to check up on you when you are not with him?
  • Act extremely jealous?
  • Repeatedly accuse you of cheating or flirting with others?
  • Threaten to take away or hurt your children?
  • Act like the abuse is no big deal, it’s your fault or even deny doing it?
  • Destroy your property or threaten to kill or hurt your pets?
  • Force you to drop charges?
  • Threaten to commit suicide?

If you have checked any of the boxes above, you may be in an abusive relationship; please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), 1-800-787-3224 (TTY) or the NEWS hotline at 707-252-3687


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